Defining Grief
Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any list would include death and divorce as obvious painful losses. Our list also includes many others; retirement, moving, pet loss, financial and health issues, etc.
The range of emotions associated with grief is as varied as there are people and personalities. There is no list of feelings that would adequately describe one person’s emotions, much less an entire society’s.
Grief is individual and unique. As every relationship is unique, so are the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or for other reasons.
The Problem
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal, natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual.
The majority of incorrect ideas about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths which are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them. Most people have never questioned whether or not they are valid. The misinformation is best described in the following:
Six Myths
- Time Heals All wounds
- Grieve Alone
- Be Strong
- Don’t Feel Bad
- Replace the Loss
- Keep Busy
Just looking at the myth that “time heals” creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who had waited 10, 20, 30 and 40 years, and still didn’t feel better. And, we know that they would tell you that not only had time not healed them but that it had also compounded the pain. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages.
The Solution
Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all of the undelivered emotional communications that accrue in relationships. We are all advised to “Let Go” and “Move On” after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do that if we knew how.
Completion of pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion.
Before taking the actions to complete, it is important to look at and often dismiss some of the ideas or myths that we have tried to use with loss, but which are not working.
Safety and Effective Actions
Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all of the undelivered emotional communications that accrue in relationships. We are all advised to “Let Go” and “Move On” after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do that if we knew how.
Completion of pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion.
Before taking the actions to complete, it is important to look at and often dismiss some of the ideas or myths that we have tried to use with loss, but which are not working.
Commitment and Attendance
The eight week Grief Recovery Method Outreach Program® is not an occasional, drop-in group. For safety and the success of all participants, commitment and attendance are essential.
In order to gain optimal results in the seven week one on one program commitment to complete is also essential.
Grief Recovery Method Programs are led by Yvonne Racine who has been trained and certified by The Grief Recovery Institute® as well as being a Certified Life Coach and Spiritual Counsellor with over 25 years’ experience in facilitating personal development. To ensure your success within this program Yvonne also has direct access to the founders of the Institute who have been running programs for over 25 years.