Independence and Grief

//Independence and Grief

I tend to be a very independent person. Right from the time I was 2 years old I didn’t want to let anyone help me get dressed; I’m sure I provided some comedy for the family with some of my choices.

My independent streak has served me in many ways and I am eternally grateful for that. It has also caused me much unnecessary grief as well. When I was in pain I went into seclusion rather than reaching out for help. The cost was pretty high in terms of time, energy and opportunities lost because I didn’t get the help I needed. My world had to come crashing down and, as is so often the case, I pretty much had to hit bottom before I finally allowed myself to be helped.

Since then I’ve participated in hundreds of hours of workshops and counseling and coaching sessions and have been so very blessed by it all. When I was able to see how much difference it made in all areas of my life I was able to find more balance between my independence and my need to let other people help me through tough times.

It isn’t easy to see when we need help sometimes. We have all kinds of excuses for not reaching out; sometimes we tell ourselves it’s about money or we don’t have time or we are afraid of being shamed. Sometimes we just don’t get that there really is help for us out there or we don’t feel we deserve it or that our pain isn’t severe enough to warrant it.

If you are having challenges in life, feeling blocked or isolated or deeply alone; if you listen deep inside you will find that beyond all the barriers there is a sweet innocent being who is reaching out for help. I urge you to find that place that says yes to the cry for help and let yourself be guided to finding the right kind of help for you.

You are worth it!



By | 2017-02-09T19:37:44+00:00 February 9th, 2017|Blog|